Tag Archives: talk

Have You Needed To Step In?

Are your parents ill? Have you needed to step in and assume some of their care?

If the answer is yes, you are probably already aware that it can sometimes be difficult taking care of your parents….many times the parent does NOT want the child to be in charge.

You can make the adjustment easier and certainly more smooth by just letting your parent(s) know you are there for them when they need you…that you have no plans to impede their independence…you are just helping out until they get better or no longer need your assistance.

Put yourself in their shoes…are you fairly set in your ways? Remember then, so are they…it may be hard for them to fathom that they are now needing care FROM their children!

If your parents are still mentally astute continue to let them handle those things that require that capability…and allow the decision-making to be theirs as it regards the future steps that may need to be taken. Doing this will help ease some of the stress both you and your parents may feel about the ‘role’ reversal.

Once you start caregiving for someone you can easily fall prey to being the ‘martyr’ and may start to first ignore and then lose a part of your own personal life. It is important to keep your life and your parent(s) life separate…if you are finding that this is too difficult to do…reach out for assistance. There are lots of avenues and resources to aid you in these trying times.

Advertisements

Aging Signs to Watch For #1

Our lives have become increasingly hectic and in many cases fraught with stress so we can easily lose site of our parents and what might be called their ‘aging needs.’ This week I’ll focus on the ‘signs’ you may want to look for … indications that your parents may be in need of some additional support.  As our parents age, we need to make sure they’re taking care of themselves.  

#1: Observe your parents’ moods…Have you noticed a change in their personality?  When was the last time you asked them (and actually HEARD the answer) how they were feeling?

Talk WITH your parents about their activities. Are they connecting with friends? Have they maintained an interest in hobbies or other daily activities? Are they involved in social organizations, church related activities or clubs?  Take the time to talk WITH your parents and LISTEN to what they are saying.  It may be that your parents are just looking for a little company and you being there to LISTEN will be just what the doctor ordered!

If you notice drastic  mood swings or that your parents outlook on life has become grim this could be a sign of depression.  Stay on top of it and speak to their Doctor or a trusted advisor.  Don’t ignore what could be warning signs.

You wake up one morning and to your surprise you have suddenly ‘become’ the parent to your parents!  You realize that the upcoming years are going to be challenging and it dawns on you that neither you or your parents have had “that discussion.”  What should you do next…well, first, don’t panic!  Soon your own children will be saying the same about you!  So, with that said, it just might be time to get to “that discussion” with your parents and your own children.  Secondly, realize that you are not alone in this dilemma, so there are many resources popping up all over that will help set you on the best path for your circumstances!   And thirdly, thanks to the huge population of baby boomers there is a flourishing senior care industry!  As this blog progresses I hope you will find the resources and support you are looking for and if not, please send me an email and I’ll do my best to find you the ‘answer.’ We are new to this blogging world and look forward to your thoughts, comments and suggestions.