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You Are Not Alone…No One Told Us These Things

We were NOT told that any home with multiple stories would wreak havoc on the kneecaps or that a steady banister on each side of the stairs would actually be useful.

We were NOT told that anniversaries, holidays and birthdays need to be celebrated with a designated driver. No one wanted to admit that one alcoholic beverage could knock them out or that caffeine would keep them up all night.

We were NOT told to put our house or car keys in the same spot every day so we didn’t have to rely on memory to find them.

No one told us to beware of identity theft or mentioned the invasiveness of security checks at the airport because of terrorism..no one wants to admit that their finances and body just ain’t what it used to be…

We were NOT told about constant maintenance and more maintenance of the mind, body and spirit. We were NOT told about the exhaustion that came with all that constant maintenance as well as a waistline that would continue to bloom regardless of what we did to decrease it.

Finally, We were NOT told our parents were going to NEED us or how we should take care of them. Thankfully…the Baby Boomer generation has made head way in that direction…For information on how to better care for yourself and aging parents…click here.


Caregiver Survival Tips

Did you know that caregivers are at the same risk for burnout as nurses, teachers, and air-traffic controllers?

Did you know that the caregiver can get so stressed out that their own health declines?

Does this sound like something you are experiencing?

PLEASE know it doesn’t have to be this way.

Below are a few Home Instead Senior Care survival tips:

Have ‘the talk’ with your siblings before the crisis with Mom and Dad. Make it clear that you cannot do this alone. If the crisis has already happened…hold a family meeting…bring in a neutral professional…your parent’s primary doctor or a social-worker…to act as mediator. This way everyone will be informed of the diagnosis and care plan at the same time…all family members will feel that their opinion has mattered.

Join a support group. Learn from other caregivers, get regular exercise which is vital to better sleep.

Take at least one hour a day to do something that gives you pleasure…a manicure, meet a friend for coffee, take a yoga class. Let your nervous system reset.

Call your local Area Council on Aging and ask where you can take your family member for a respite stay. Rehab facilities often have some beds for the purpose. Under Medicaid, the caregiver is entitled to three or four days away every 90 days.

And most of all…remember you cannot control disease or aging.